Today is my last all about dogs post! It’s been fun to write posts about dogs this week. I have realized that through writing, I love my dog more than I thought (which I didn’t know was possible). She truly is such a special member of our family and being in my life. Today’s post is about unconditional love.
Unconditional love is something that is talked about in relationships. It means love without conditions. To be loved, without conditions, is really hard. It’s also hard to give that kind of love. I always thought that people could love other people unconditionally. But once I got a dog, I realized that it’s actually really hard to love someone unconditionally and to feel loved unconditionally.
What does it mean to love unconditionally? It means that there aren’t any rules or boundaries. That you don’t feel judged or get upset because of someone’s reactions. Can humans love unconditionally? I don’t know if they can. Think about the relationships that you have with your parents or significant others. Are there boundaries or rules that you expect them to follow or that they expect you to follow? Will they love you if you break those rules.
I grew up in a loving family. I have two parents who love me very much. But there were always expectations that I had to follow. I had to, and still have to, act a certain way. I had to go to college. I had to get a respectable job. I have to be respectful to others even when I really don’t want to. These were the expectations that were set for me as a child and to be honest, I felt that if I didn’t meet those expectations, I don’t know if my parents would have loved me. Maybe they would’ve but I never got to that point because I was too scared.
Another relationship I have is with my husband. I believe we have a healthy, loving relationship. But we also have expectations for each other. What if one of us committed a crime or hurt the other? Would we love each through that? Is that unconditional love? No because you’ve set expectations and when expectations aren’t met, you feel disappointed and angry.
Then there is my dog. My sweet baby, Rani. I didn’t know what unconditional love was until we got her. This year was filled with hardships because it was my first year teaching. I came home upset 80% of the time. Rani never judged me. She never ran away from me as I slammed the door to our house. Instead, she would wag her tail with happiness just because I came home. When there would be tears rolling down my face, she would curl up next to me and let me know that it’s okay to just be upset.
I also think that as a human, it’s hard to love someone unconditionally. You will always have these hopes and expectations for the person. Will you still love them if they make a big mistake? I don’t know.
This post is a tricky one. I don’t know what is right and what is wrong. I just know that I never understood unconditional love until I got Rani. She has helped me so much more than I ever thought she would. She is my baby and I honestly didn’t know that I would love her as much as I do.
What are your thoughts on unconditional love? Can humans love unconditionally?
xxSejalina and Rani